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Should you get the courage to tell your crush how you feel, don’t be afraid to ask their advice on what to say. Even if they don’t share your feelings, they’ll surely know what is best for you.
Here are some relationship advice for when it comes time to let someone know how you feel:
1. When he asks if you have a pen to borrow for a test.
Ask him to help you figure out if he is a good fit for your interests or hobbies. But let him know you have no intention of becoming a couple.
Loss of interest in your hobbies, but an increase in attention from him, could be a sign that things are going well between the two of you, and that he is the one who wants to go out on dates with you, rather than how it usually works where it’s the girl who is always asking the guy out first.
Just don’t count on it ,there’s no 100% guarantee and remember to look at all angles if anything seems fishy. But if he seems the type to spend his nights with you instead of slumping on the couch watching reality television, it could mean something.
2. When he asks how you are doing.
Ask him to help you figure out if he is a good fit for your interests or hobbies. But let him know you have no intention of becoming a couple.
If he doesn’t know what to say, just admit that, usually, you are very stoic about your feelings and that he has never asked you before about how your day was going before today.
You can then mention that you just want to know how he is doing as well, and then quickly change the subject to something else.
If he asks you this question at all, just answer “fine” and pretend as if he didn’t ask. If he does ask again, tell him your day was fine, but it happened a week ago. This will only make him more interested in you if it’s true.
3. When you need help on a homework assignment.
Ask him to help you figure out if he is a good fit for your interests or hobbies. But let him know you have no intention of becoming a couple.
If he doesn’t know what to say, just admit that, usually , you are very stoic about your feelings and that he has never asked you before about how your day was going before today.
You can then mention that you just want to know how he is doing as well, and then quickly change the subject to something else .
If he tells you that there’s no way that he can help since it’s a maths assignment, ask him some questions instead. Why is this assignment so difficult?
What’s the main concept of this lesson? Why do you think it will be easier to memorize this particular equation? Ask him these questions until he figures out a way for them both to benefit from his knowledge on the subject.
4. When you need help with something for school or work.
Ask him to have a look over your recent assignments. Let him know that he will have to sign a non-disclosure agreement promising not to tell anyone what you told him about the project, but that he is able to go over them completely if he wants.
Don’t say anything that can be misconstrued as being too suggestive of what you have in mind by asking him to look over your work for free, but make sure nothing incriminating is said either .
5. When he asks if you are having fun.
Ask him to help you figure out if he is a good fit for your interests or hobbies. But let him know you have no intention of becoming a couple.
If he doesn’t know what to say, just admit that, usually , you are very stoic about your feelings and that he has never asked you before about how your day was going before today.
You can then mention that you just want to know how he is doing as well, and then quickly change the subject to something else .
